A lot of times in the Christian community, grief is minimized. There is one scripture that tells believers not to grieve as those who have no hope. Well, because of that one scripture, lots of folks push their grief aside and ignore it. This is very unhealthy. Grief is a natural process that needs to be addressed by everyone who suffers the loss of someone they love. If you are grieving and you are a believer, don't be afraid to let the tears flow, they are healing. Even if you believe your loved one is enjoying the awesomeness of heaven, you still need to cry, to articulate your grief and express it to heal emotionally and even spiritually. Please allow yourself this. Blessed are they that mourn..for they shall be comforted.